Surrendering our fears, grief, impure motives and mistaken thinking is not always easy, but it can be done. Join me in my Tuesday Teaser session video as I share my fear of “not being good enough” and steps to surrender anything blocking your journey through life. Or, read the full content below.
Hey travelers, it’s Dee Peel, professional certified Life Coach, and welcome to my Tuesday Teaser session. I say travelers because we’re all on a journey and it doesn’t matter what stage of life we’re in, with each curve we take, something is different around the corner. What we choose to do with that curveball makes or breaks where we are headed. I invite you to Take My Hand in this Tuesday Teaser and lighten the load on your trip.
This month, I am concentrating on fears and have shared how our fears, and losses, can stifle our desire to keep going, keep us stuck on the side of the road, and not allow us to arrive at our destination.
In preparation for this Q&A session, I asked last week “What are fears you have surrendered in the past? How have you successfully stopped fearing something?”
Successfully surrendering a fear is a process of acknowledging that fear, understanding why you have it, learning the truth about the fear, and then surrendering it – sometimes once, sometimes again and again.
A fear many people have is the “fear of not being good enough.” Let’s look at that today to give you an idea of how this process works.
After Super Dad and I did the work to save our marriage 20 years ago, I felt the urge to let others know you don’t have to run away from relationships issues – they can be addressed and you can overcome what is lurking inside you that causes problems in relating to others. I realized, like I wanted to do, most people run from doing that hard work and then take those same relational issues into their next relationship and continue to have problems. I wanted people to know, you can absolutely save your marriage and keep your family together.
I believe God wants us to use our experiences, the good ones and the bad ones, to help others. I felt the urge to do that when friends told me of their relationship struggles. I wanted to share with them what they could do to save their marriage, but I felt completely inadequate and had no confidence in how to help.
I found out when God gives you a job to do, he also provides what you need to do it. I began reading material about relationships to become more knowledgeable, for my own marriage, and the ability to share information. I studied personalities, went through training to become a certified life coach and SYMBIS facilitator (Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts).
But, ultimately, I did extensive surrendering of my own fears, grief, loss and impure motives by asking God to take from me everything that was keeping me from serving my purpose. With prayer and physical surrender exercises, I was able to gain confidence in what I did know, based on my own experiences, and, learn how to share my story in a way that would benefit others.
We actually know more than we think we know, we just struggle with the peace of who we are and how we can be of service to others.
Surrendering fear is not easy, but it can be done. Are there days I still feel “I’m not good enough” – heck yeah! Take this video, for instance, I have no idea of anyone is listening to it or if it is helping anyone. But I keep going, knowing I want to help anyone I can with this message. And, the beauty of surrendering your fears – you can do it as often as you need to. If you need help with this process, I would love to talk with you. Message me below or visit my website at takemyhandcoaching.com.
Thank you for traveling with me today and join me each Tuesday for my
Teaser sessions. As you continue this life journey, traveler, let’s learn how to love and serve each other!