A New Normal

Watch my Tuesday Teaser Q&A session on finding a “new normal” after coronavirus. Or, read the content below.

Next Tuesday Teaser question is: What are your fears about your relationship during the worldwide shutdown or as we return to a New Normal?

Hey travelers, it’s Dee Peel, professional certified Life Coach, and welcome to my Tuesday Teaser session. I say travelers because we’re all on a journey aren’t we? It doesn’t matter what stage of life we’re in, with each curve we take, something is different around the corner. What we choose to do with that change makes or breaks where we are headed. I invite you to Take My Hand in this Tuesday Teaser and lighten the load on your trip.

In preparation for this Q&A session, I asked last week “What are your fears?” These are roadblocks that interfere with our journey that make us question our ability, judgment, thoughts, purpose, even the very nature of who we are. If allowed to continue, our fears can stifle our desire to keep going, keep us stuck on the side of the road, and not allow us to arrive at our destination.

All of us experience roadblocks, so do not feel you are the only one who fears abandonment, rejection, being alone, bankruptcy, illness like coronavirus and cancer, not being productive, ridicule, dying, spiders, starting a new job, public speaking, terrorism – the list goes on and on! Some of us have a couple of these, some of us have many fears.

My God-given purpose is to help you identify your fears, understand their origination, play the “what if” game of talking through that fear, and ultimately surrender it and move past the roadblock that keeps you stuck.

Although these are typical fears for most of us, the fear spoken this week is “what happens when we return to work, socializing, and opening our cities, country and world, after isolating for so long due to a virus that disrupted the world?” Do we return to “normal” or will it all be different?

What I have noticed, with great joy, is how adaptable we truly are and how overwhelmingly caring we have been for others who are in need. In my own family, I’ve seen my son, Incredible Hulk, and his family create a new routine for their children, who need routines, of learning in the morning, while mom does instructional fitness training online in another room, then quiet time while dad works from home, and then afternoons of physical activity out of the house. My daughter, Brown-eyed girl and her fiancé have altered their work schedules that have kept them in the same city for a change and continue to plan their summer wedding, not knowing exactly what that will look like yet. My youngest daughter, Health Nut, who, by that way, is in public health with a microbiology degree, and is one of the nerds who is a little giddy about watching this pandemic unfold in her lifetime, but, is also very aware of its ability to damage the young not-fully-developed lungs of her baby boy. So she keeps us aware of how to adapt our lives for our safety and protects her son within the walls of their home, sacrificing freedom and sanity.

I, myself, have experienced the initial joy of life coming to a standstill and not being responsible for the many irons I had in the fire, only to then give way to the emotions of being isolated and not feeling valuable if I can’t continue my plans of organizing a spring Couples Weekend Retreat, or see clients in person. For the first time in our marriage, Super Dad and I have been together 24 hours a day, for over a month! Stay tuned for next weeks Q&A subject on relationships.

The best way to fight your fear is to understand it and talk it through. What is the new normal going to look like? First, what are the lessons we’ve learned this past month? What are the positive changes you want to continue? What are the past routines you want to eliminate, now knowing you no longer need or want that in your life? I have absolutely NO DOUBT God will use this horrible, life-changing, activity-disrupting, financially-hurting, emotionally-wavering, awful virus to positively change our way of living – if we allow it to.

I’ve heard friends say their teenagers are getting along better with spending more time together. Families are having meals together instead of running from one activity to another – which I absolutely did when raising my children. So many people have found ways to make masks, give money, shop for neighbors, supplying food, parading drive-by birthday greetings, playing tic-tac-toe on the window of an elderly shut-in, creating online studies, music, free shows – I could go on-and-on.

Do not fear the lesson learned in this time of adapting. Surrender the idea of life not returning to what it was and embrace a new normal with positive changes you want to make in your life. Moving forward with a positive, life-changing approach, eliminates the fear of the unknown.

If you need help, I am offering a 4-week class, online, called Fight Your Fears. You, and 1-2 friends or family can carve out your own session that works with your schedules and learn to identify, understand and surrender your fears. Visit my website at takemyhandcoaching.com to register today.

Next week’s Tuesday Teaser session is regarding relationships. What has worked for you in this time of staying home and what has not worked? What is your fear about your relationship as we continue to social distance, or as we return to a new normal. Leave your comments below or private message me.

As you continue this life journey, traveler, let’s love and serve each other!